A sucker for justice

A friend of mine recently explicitly stated in words
the thought that has been in my mind for a couple of months
now... that I am a sucker for justice.

Well this post wouldn't be if he had put it in such a complimentary
way :-) Those are my words. What he said was that I am vengeful..
which if you look at it minutely is not a bad thing. Some of the salient
points that come to mind when you think about it are :-
Firstly, you seek revenge only when you feel SO DAMN passionately
about something or someone. If only you care...

Secondly, no one gets back over trivial things.. those who do should
consult Dr. Juhi Chawla in Krazzy4, in which she is a psychiatrist.
It's only when you see a pattern that you realise you are being taken
for granted, taken for a ride... that is when most people's ego gets
injured and revolts in the same josh as that of a beaten up hero who
has to rise and fight to save the heroine. When the string of events repeats
and without an iota of concern or sensitivity about it towards the other person,
people get the feeling of being treated like a doormat. So getting back is a way of
ensuring that you get your due and are treated at par.. which is my next point.

This is a very subtle but very important point. When someone gets back
at you what do you feel? Do you feel the power the other person weilds?
In more ways than one? Do you at that moment get awed by the confidence
the other person has just displayed and blinded you with it?
:-) I am sure you do. It also goes on to show that the other person wants to be
treated equally, with as much respect that you expect to be treated with. It says that
I am no less and I can beat you at your own game! But more than about beating someone
at their own game, it is about getting respect that is due in any relation, irrespective of
the status of the ppl involved.. rich-poor, married-single,professional-housewife..
Yes it hurts the male ego more if the person you are dealing with is a woman..
but its the age of the woman! Get used to it !!

I am sure you will now argue with your valid point of perception. What if what has
been perceived as injustice or taking for a ride is a mere perception problem?
What if the intent was nothing that came out as you thought it was? Fair enough.
But I firmly believe that a repeated mistake is a sin. You gotta mend it dude.
Either the way you deal with people or the way you manage perceptions.
Other people see you as you really are more than you see yourself in the mirror.
So there's gotta be some fire for the smoke to rise.

All said and done, you cannot handle any relationship - friendship or otherwise -
as a business deal. There are no accounts in there... it doesn't work that way
for me atleast. BUT..... and thats a big but... there has to be mutual respect for bliss
to last... and if that means you have to show the stick to someone once in a
while it ain't bad.